Where there is a will there is a way!

Hi friends and readers!!! It’s the last week of June and boy is it hot here in Texas! I don’t really like to complain about the heat since I know there are troops overseas wearing mounts of gear in the blistering heat so think about that next time you are hot! Haha.  I hope everyone had a great weekend and is having a good start to the week.

Today I am taking a big plunge and writing about marriage. I hold marriage very sacred, and never really speak about mine publicly so I’m writing about my views on it. See today it seems like we live in a world where the love word and divorce word are being thrown around in the same sentence! Cheating has become the norm to some people and abuse seems more common now than ever. See statistics show that one tends to follow the steps or love patterns they grew up in. But I am a believer that we can rise above and break the chains! It’s in your hands to experience and find real love. Ladies and gents don’t settle for less, because you deserve the best!

Divorce is not an option for me and should not be for anyone, but there are certain commandments that should never be broken. Cheating and physical abuse are two things that NO ONE should ever have to endure. Would my Lord and Savior ever hit me? NEVER.Would my Lord ever cheat on me? NEVER. Now I know you are thinking how in the world is she comparing her husband to God. Well you see in my walk with God I know that I should always hold my standards in a man that high. But like any other marriage ours is not perfect, and it’s an everyday job to keep the love train moving. Today the most used excuse in divorce is “we fell out of love.” This is impossible. No one falls out of love, one just stops nourishing that love. In the bible it says that NO MARRIAGE will ever fully get to know one another because love is never ending; “LOVE EVER ENDURES.”  Marriages today get stuck on routine and get caught up on society’s views about it. Everyone is more focused with keeping up with the “jones’” and this is when couples slip through the cracks.  Life can get super busy and this also sways us away from a union. So let me talk about “nourishing” love. Think of love as a rose that needs to be watered every so often in order for it to bloom over and over again. If we don’t put in the effort then we will see no results. So here are a few tips on what I think can keep a marriage flowing and overall keeping a union in LOVE. Praying TOGETHER; take at least ten minutes out of ya’lls day to either read the bible together or just pray for others and for ya’lls love  Attending church together; visiting the house of the Lord together can only be beneficial. But what if one of the persons doesn’t want to attend? Well then just pray every time you go that he or she will join you soon, and never give up prayer on them. Finding a hobby that both of you enjoy, maybe a sport or gym class, gardening, painting whatever it is you two will have fun and bond at the same time! Now I know that marriage isn’t always peaches and cream! I know shit can hit the fan sometimes, and there comes a point when we are ready to just throw in the towel.

Divorce should always be the last option yes, but God is a forgiving God, and if you are 100% unhappy and have tried everything to make it work then maybe it’s time to rethink your purpose as husband and wife. If you are at that point before you make any major decisions have you tried these things; marriage counseling, maybe revisiting your walk with the Lord as a couple, or maybe if it’s in your budget taking a relaxing vacation where you two can freely communicate. I read somewhere that people tend to act more like themselves when they are in an unfamiliar place. So this could be a good way to open up the lines of communication. If the both of you are at least willing to change certain habits or seek help that is always a positive sign of you two wanting to stay in the marriage. In a marriage we become “ONE;” Love is a beautiful thing, and when you follow the love rules that God has written out for us, all else should fall into place. Thanks for reading and sharing once again. oneLOVE.

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.(Proverbs 3:5,6)

A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones (Proverbs 12:4.)

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.  Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them. (Colossians 3:18-19)